Have you ever had one of those friends that think they know everything about parenting? They have experienced it all, they have soo much experience in everything that they do, or everything that happens to everyone around them they have the remedy for?
Well I do (of course I do or I would not be writing this post huh?) and let me tell you about a nerve she struck with me recently. It has to do with kids. Now I have 2, my daughter is 10 and my son is 7 months. And let me tell you being a parent is hard work, it has it's ups and downs, and it is not a job for everyone. Now it is partially my fault, for letting this bother me, but she made a post on a social networking site that said something along the lines of "OMG I have never met a brattier 5 year old, he is sure lucky that I ain't his momma." Now okay, I get that sometimes you can go places and realize that some parents have a harder time with their kids than others. Makes you thankful for what you have. But it is not easy. I especially know that for us working moms, that have our kids in daycare, that just makes the road of parenting that much harder- because we are not with our kids all day, everyday. So teaching them, training them, and keeping them on a schedule and filling their brains with knowledge and understanding of right and wrong behavior is tough. So I get that sometimes in the store when you walk by a mom struggling to keep her child in the grocery cart sitting down, or teaching them to not touch everything, and to stop screaming can be a unruly sight for some. But as a mom, I know that sometimes, it happens. So reading that post kid of made me stop and go okay, she does not have kids, she doesn't get it. No big deal. But it was when the next post came up, that I truly was offended and wanted to go off on her. It read "I have never wanted to taze a 5 year old more than I do right now." I read this, and then I re-read it. I could not believe that someone would even go public and say something like that! Now that is definitely the mommy in me! I of course at this point had to chime in. I responded with "you know I get that some kids appear to be brats. But making comments like that about them is a little off wouldn't you say? I mean if a child is acting out, it is more to blame on the parents that have let the child behave that away, and think that it is okay." I got a response of "no, if you had seen how obnoxious this kid was you would understand." Then on the tazing comment- I went with "wow, I never thought that I would hear a comment like that from you. I just do not think again that you can blame a child this young for his or her actions. It is the parents you should be upset with. Maybe when you have kids someday you will see how this comment is just a little off." This time she was a little more pissed off that I was saying that, so I got a response of "I have helped raise a child,and I would never let my child act that away. So I do know what it is like and children do know better." I just made a final comment of we shall agree to disagree, I should have just kept my mouth shut. It has not been commented on since.
Here is another quick story for you, to show you the stupid things people say- that do not have kids, and how it shocks the system. When I went into my old daycare, to pick up my son one afternoon the girl in there I knew, but she was not a regular in the infant room. So I went in, picked up my son, trying to steal all those slobbery kisses and I asked her how his day was. Her response, "Oh it was pretty good, he cried a little, and I only wanted to drop kick him once." My shock and stun left me speechless. I will never forget that comment, and I will never get over it. There are just somethings that you should never say- and a REAL MOM would NEVER say something like this!
I just think that when you have children that it is A LOT different from when you help raise one. Being available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, where your entire world revolves around them, and everything you do, you do for them or because of them- is a lot different than helping raise a child. Being a parent is a full time job, and it is not easy- so why are people so quick to judge- when they have no idea what it is really like, and what it takes to wear the title "MOM." A real mom would never make a comment about hurting a child, and a real mom stands up to those who do. In my world, my son is at a new daycare, and that friend that made the tazing comment- DELETED!
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